Recently I’ve read a few posts about swearing in front of children and, me being someone to put my oar in I thought I’d give my 2 pence worth.
The way I was brought up…
So, let me start my short post on where I am coming from first. I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. A time when you could still get a clip round the ear from your parents, the teachers, local bobby, etc. For example, if I was heard even saying a swear word such as ‘God’, then I would get a slap round the ear.
That said, there were many things different then. You could smoke anywhere for example; places of work had virtually no health and safety if you compared to today, and people swore like troopers. I grew up hearing loads of swearing – though I add that this did not drive me to swear constantly; though that could also be down to the threat of a slap round the head.
So, just bear in mind that, growing up, everyone was swearing around us, even just walking down the road or into the local shop for a bag of 1/2p sweets (3 sweets for 1p – 5p and you could rot your teeth daily).
That said, do I swear in front of the kids…
In most cases; no. Though I won’t say I never have because we all slip at times and let out one or two naughty words. The thing is, if one does slip out then I don’t feel so bad about it. We go out for dinner once or twice to different pubs and the kids have heard far worse while eating in there than what I may slip from time to time.
For me, the biggest thing is to explain to them why they can’t say those things. Most of the time, they just seem to ignore it. That said, my older daughter (No. 1) has once or twice said something and we have told her off – so they can repeat. My argument, though, is that bad language is rife in so many places – hearing the odd one from you is just all part of that background noise.
It’s also down to the level of words you will accept too. For example, when I was 8 going on 9; if I had said God in front of my parents in a cursed way then I would have got a slap round the head. Same goes if it was at school or if a policeman had heard. Well, back in the 70’s that was all perfectly acceptable.
Today though, we often hear my daughter say things like god damn it and similar. Although we say, don’t say that – because it’s everywhere, even between school kids; then we are probably more accepting than our parents.
And that’s all I have to say on that…
So, there you have it. My 2-pence worth on the subject. I can understand why people don’t want to swear in front of their kids. I am accepting of those that do. For me, I tend not to, unless something slips out – either bash something or angry at something or other. I choose to explain the reasons on how swear words will get them in trouble rather than trying to shield them from it all – which is completely impossible.
What about you? Do you agree or disagree with me? Please do let me know as I am open to all other opinions. This is just my own opinion on what I do and why I can understand and see both sides of this argument.
I recently came across the following quote
“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”
― Maya Angelou
This is my new goal in life. Not to conform to be normal, but to be amazing and I hope to inspire you to be amazing too.