We all need to be more accepting of others

We all need to be more accepting of others

In Autism by Sean43 Comments

So, the title is a bit of a generalisation – it probably should be SOME of use (as humans) must be more accepting of others, especially those with disabilities.

Trying not to rant

So, I am trying not to rant in this post, though this week I have read a few news stories that really got my back up (so to speak). There are many stories that go unsaid, I can name many situations where we get looks of distain and disgust from other parents when little Mr is having a meltdown, or making too much noise and so on. Personally I just look back at them with a reflective look – if they can’t accept others then they don’t deserve my time or even respect.

There were a few articles I read this week on the BBC News website that started to boil my blood. These articles really show how, as a society, many of us need to do better. Now, anyone that maybe reading this post would be excluded from these list of people, purely because you are accepting – otherwise why would you be reading articles and posts about disabilities and autism.

There are many others out there that are also excluded from this list of people who need to do better, as there are more and more people out there these days that do understand and do accept. However, these news articles, which I will go through in a minute, show that there are many that are accepting and do need to do better.

Removed from the cinema

So, the first article I read that had me starting to rant was about a woman with Aspergers that was removed from a cinema, and this happened while she was watching her favourite movie as a birthday celebration. Why was she removed? For laughing too loud at the funny parts…

As a society don’t we nurture the ‘express yourself’ part of our personality? I mean, removed for laughing too loud? I won’t go into the details of the article, as there was another word removed before the removed – go read it. What really made my blood boil was reading that there were people in the film that verbally abused and then geered and cheered when she was removed, even though she told them she had Aspergers. I won’t go into what some said – again go read articles – but I am not even going to give time to what they said.

This really does show that we have a long way to go.

Needing to use the loo

The second News story about a young lady with Crohn’s disease who needed to use the toilet but was told she could not by a member of staff.

Now, a friend of mine has Crohn’s, and although I don’t know the full details of it – I know how bad it can be and how important it is to get to a toilet.

Surely the use of a toilet, something that the staff member is not paying for, is not a big deal. If they are worried, surely a member of staff can go with them?

Again, just another example of people needed to become more understanding.

Asked to leave

The final straw to my week, as it were, came when I read a 3rd article about a young many who was asked to leave a theatre show – what really shines out is that his dad was one of the actors, and that the woman who piped up and asked them to leave reportable said that he was distracting the cast?

This young man, who is non-verbal as reported in this news article, was making animal noises – apparently the show had actors making animal noises. It goes on to say that a woman in front asked him to leave. It says his day (who was one of the actors only found out after the performance).

This is one of those articles that I would love to have read his dad seeing him get up while on stage and then asked this woman why she asked them to leave. Now, I don’t condone picking on people, one of the reasons why these stories make my blood boil.  But, I would love to get the insight into the people who have no tolerance and try to show why they are wrong.

I don’t expect…

Now, I don’t expect these people to gain this tolerance unless their lives are effected with disability or some other reason. It’s really disappointing that people still have little tolerance.

Even before little Mr was born, we had some involvement with Autism, disabilities and were always accepting of others. Even though I had less knowledge and experience I made sure I was accepting. That maybe down to my own experience as a kid of being different – my wife says I need to get evaluated to see if I am on the spectrum – though for me its  more about I shouldn’t need to, they should accept me, little Mr and everyone else for who they are.

Right. Rang over.. How about your, have you experience of people with no acceptance? If so, why not share them with us.

I recently came across the following quote

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”
― Maya Angelou

This is my new goal in life. Not to conform to be normal, but to be amazing and I hope to inspire you to be amazing too.

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Comments

    1. Author

      Yes when I read the articles on the news site it made me quite mad at how there are still some people who are intolerant and that some companies need to do better.

  1. Wow those stories just seem so unnecessary and cruel. I think we all need to mind how we behave around other people but goodness me there are some intolerant people out there #dreamteam

    1. Author

      I agree completely. Also, some companies have to get better training their staff on this stuff I believe. But there will no doubt always be some people who just are intolerant of anyone who is different which does sadden me

  2. What a terrible shame that these people had their fun curtailed because of either a lack of understanding or intolerance. Thanks for highlighting it. #dreamteam

  3. People don’t always know – which is reasonable – but I’m always amazed that once someone explains what the issue is, they seem determined to follow their script rather than applying common-sense. I read some of those news articles as well and was appalled at how people were treated. (I stopped reading comments under news articles along time ago for the sake of my cardio-vascular health!)

    1. Author

      Couldn’t agree more. As you say, when made aware then should really understand and accept. I would have boiled over in regards to cinema one where it said that one of the people there continued saying bad things after they were told.

  4. I could not agree more. I think we are becoming more and more self-righteous and intolerant as a society. More people need to speak up for the need for tolerance and acceptance!

    1. Author

      Yes. Thing is that we know more and supposed to be more accepting of disabilities these days. Yet, these articles really showed that there are some who need to do better.

  5. Humans can be a nasty species! While I do not have a disability myself, I have experienced a considerable amount of intolerance with regards to my appearance (Tattoos, piercings, dreadlocks etc). I don’t know why people cannot just get on with their own lives and not worry about that which does not affect them. Thank you so much for sharing,

    Shevy
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    #DreamTeam

  6. It is ridiculous how so many people, at this day and age, are still so ignorant, closed-minded and think that they are more important than others. #DreamTeam

  7. Your posts always make me feel and think, both very good things. I have had experiences of people being cruel and was once asked to leave a café when my daughter was crying as the owner said it was upsetting her customers. We worked out that the chain curtain had somehow upset my daughter deeply but that was before I started working out she was probably on the spectrum in some way. I just felt like a very bad mother. There are so many shocking stories and we need to call them out. Having said that sometimes I do think it is the case that people don’t know how to react and can misinterpret intentions. Although having said that I have recently moved to a community where everyone is accepted and the difference to our wellbeing as a family is immense. Shame we had to go overseas to find our haven. Keep on doing what you are doing – it is important #DreamTeam

    1. Author

      Thank you for sharing. There are many accepting people out there but for those that don’t I sometimes feel it’s because they don’t want to try. We’ve had our fair share of people moan but I just ignore their unacceptance of the many diverse people we live with in this world.

      I’m glad you’ve found an accepting community. I do feel that one day we will move abroad to somewhere more accepting ☺️

  8. I agree with Kate above. Keep doing what your doing as by sharing our experiences or pointing things out, hopefully others will build a better understanding about the needs of others. Some people do not understand about differing needs especially when someone looks ‘normal’ unfortunately. I write ‘normal’ like that on purpose as everyone has differing needs in fact! It’s sad that there isn’t more tolerance in the world; let’s all try to be more understanding and kind. Great post. #dreamteam

    1. Author

      I totally agree. Little Mr from all appearances looks like any other child of his age. It’s only when you hear and also understand his limitations. There are many children and adults who live with hidden (as they refer to them as) disabilities. We just have to keep reminding them as you say. ☺️

  9. We have a story here in the states making news about a deaf woman in a drive through and the woman placed her hand over her mouth so the woman could not read her lips and everyone around them was laughing. How rude! People need to chill. #dreamteam

  10. Off to read the articles. It makes us so angry that some people live in a bubble of their own existence and can’t see the wider picture. We all need to be kinder to each other x #DreamTeam

  11. It is unbelievable how hard some people find it to simply be kind and understanding – I had missed these articles but thanks for highlighting them #dreamteam

    1. Author

      Definetly. It really makes me hope that someone with a need isn’t relying on a person who has no tolerance like these persons

  12. Not on autism but when we had the Marriage equality vote, the so called ‘christians’ felt the need to show intolerance to the LBGTQI community in the most ridiculous ad campaign, targeting weirldy trans kids (who weren’t part of the vote anyway??). I still refer to it as the NO vote, even though it was a YES result. Just felt like a big NO – and I’m not even Gay. I can’t imagine how they felt. Always defended christianity, not anymore. It was disgusting. #Dreamteam

    1. Author

      So true. Anyone who has a definition of normal is not really engaged in today’s society. We are all different and we all live on this same planet. Just some understanding and the world is so much nicer. Thanks for your great comment

  13. It’s sad to think our world is lacking so much compassion, empathy & tolerance these days. #DreamTeam

    1. Author

      It is sad to think there are many lacking empathy. Just means that the rest of us need to ensure we show how it’s done ☺️ least that’s what I feel

  14. All of these articles hurt my heart. The fact that the stories involve the owners/managers of these establishments throwing out people with disabilities who are, from what I can tell, doing nothing unacceptable… and the owners are not kicking out these horrible people who are complaining is mind blowing to me. You speak about it very eloquently which I appreciate as so many people get fired up and drop down to the level of the people they’re talking about. Cheers to you for rising above it and trying to raise awareness!
    #DreamTeam

  15. Having worked with people with learning disabilities I can luckily say I have never witnessed anything like this happen. In regards to the toilet one I don’t think much comment can be made as we don’t know what place this was, so companies don’t have public toilets like my local Aldi and even if you had a valid reason to use the toilet they can’t allow it as they are not covered for if something was to happen.

  16. Reading this really got to me – how can some people be so insensitive and inhumane. Chucking someone out of a cinema because they laughed to loud – I laugh so loud in a cinema if it’s a comedy and so many others and not once were we asked to leave. Then the loo incident – how can you deny someone (anyone for that matter). I wonder how that dad felt when he heard that he son was removed from the theatre. Sad, really sad that people are still so ignorant #dreamteam

  17. Grrrr… these really get my back up too. It sounds ridiculous to me that someone was asked to leave the cinema for laughing too loudly. I mean.. come on. If anyone should be thrown out, it’s the teenagers who throw popcorn at everyone and then try to start a fight with anyone who has the balls to tell them off. The loo is another one which gets on my nerves. Whether or not someone has a seen/unseen disability, if there is a toilet, and someone is desperate, why would they be turned away!! It’s pretty sad. Thanks for being an awesome #Dreamteam host 🙂

  18. It sometimes blows my mind how intolerant people can be. Sadly, it’s usually the ones who preach the most loudly about how tolerant they are the biggest offenders. I have a relative who preaches tolerance and respect to everyone she meets online but she is first to complain (VERY loudly) about how something even minor is upsetting her. Just get a grip! We’re in public and people will be making noise and moving around, they’re entitled to. #DreamTeam

  19. It’s sad how society can be reflected sometimes. I hope for all those awful stories there are a lot of fantastic ones but sadly they don’t get reported. #DreamTeam

  20. It’s such a shame to see stories like this in the media but hopefully reporting on them will raise awareness & highlight the fact behaviour like this isn’t ok #DreamTeam

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