So, I don’t think I ever went over the story, reason, of why did we think our son had Autism and how we came to a diagnosis for little Mr. I will go through the story over the next couple of posts, as it may also clarify your thinking when it comes to your little Mr. or Miss.
Ok, so you don’t just wake up one day and think - my child may have Autism. Certainly, its not the way we went. It took some time, and a prod from the health visitor/nurse (I’m not sure if she was a health visitor or nurse) for us to get into the program for a diagnosis.
See, we knew that he was a little slow at learning. He had also not been too much of a cuddly baby. However, you hear about how children who are on the autism spectrum don’t give things such as eye contact, don’t like people in their space, etc. This wasn’t true for our son. He gave, and still gives excellent eye contact - he stairs deep in. He has no issue with people, children being next too him. He does cuddle but it's on his terms.
So, we thought - he just took a little longer to crawl and then walk. It wasn’t a massive difference in time when compared to our daughter. Probably around 3 months longer giver or take. That wasn’t a worry.
We did see he wasn’t bothered about opening gifts at Christmas. He didn’t really play with toys. He did play, but it was move about physical play. He loved parks and so on. There were things there, but again, not the biggest thing to worry on. To be honest, are around 1.5 years I don’t think they would make a complete diagnosis. I know someone is going to say, they can, but certainly, in our case, I don’t think they would have.
It wasn’t really until after his second birthday. We noted that he had not really moved forward with his speech. He did say a couple of words, but he wasn’t progressing. This was yet another delay in a usual learning path. Adding that to the not playing with toys, the fact that he didn’t seem to grasp simple puzzles and also how he took that little bit longer to grasp walking. We wanted to ask, to see if there was a reason.
Again, autism was a thought but we had the who eye contact, stand-off-ish belief in our head that maybe it wasn’t. After our chat with the health visitor/nurse, she agreed that we needed to look at the possibility it could be something such as autism. She then set about getting him on the waiting list. You see, they put the child on a waiting list and they diagnose 4 children of similar traits at one time (at least they do it the way here in Poole, Dorset).
Now, this next part about that is for the next post. However, the thing I wanted you to take away from this first post is that ‘what your read as traits of ASD maybe try in some children but not in all’. It’s true that many children on the spectrum won’t give you eye contact, they shy away, but not all children will. If you feel, as a parent, that there is something you want to be checked out - then fight for it.
Just to expand a little on what I mean. With little Mr. it was a lot more obvious. However, with our daughter, we always said that we thought she could potentially have ADHD. We saw some doctors when she was young, however, they said that she couldn't or didn't have. To be honest, they did not spend any time on a diagnosis.
They kept telling us that we imagined it. We let it go. However, a parent knows best. Long story short, 3 or so months ago we saw a pediatrician that specializes in things such as ASD, ADHD, about our daughter. She is currently in process of monitoring; she has traits of ASD but possibly more ADHD (|like we thought). We don’t have a diagnosis as its early stages, but it shows - parents know their children best.
Fight for it if you think your son or daughter may need that extra help and support.
So, tomorrow I will talk about the diagnosis part and how that all went and came about.