I recently found a quote that I feel is something I aim to be living by :
“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”
― Maya Angelou
This really embodies my goal in life. I’ve tried to be normal enough. Now it’s time to be me and not try to meet this concept of normal. I want to be amazing and so should you.
Let’s start by talking a little about myself and why I am here.
First thing, as you may kind of work out, I’m a Dad. I’m in my later mid 40’s (if you can work out which part of it that is) and I have to kids, a daughter, who at this date (July 2017) is 8 and a son who is 4 (soon to be 9 and 5 in a few months).
The Autism part of this site comes from the fact that my son was diagnosed as being ASD when he was 2 and a half. To be honest, as we learn more about the spectrum I see many attributes in myself and daughter – though not to say were are on the spectrum. Its just that its such a wide spectrum now as we learn more and more.
The dada part of this site name comes from the fact that my son uses the word dadadadadada… a bit, generally when he wants something (does he know I will get it?)
I originally started this site to talk about ASD, talk about our discovery and learning. I wanted to document it so others, who are just starting the journey, can learn from what we learnt. However, I have expanded that definition somewhat now…
When people get a diagnosis, they all handle it differently, I’ve often heard people talking about a greaving process??? For us, there was no difference. See, our son is our son. He was no different after the diagnosis that before. What it did mean though is that we had some help and ideas on how to help him progress.
It also, to us, meant that we were going to continue on and treat him no different than his older sister. That said, some things – such as trying to get him back on a plane now he is older is a work in progress (when he last went out at 18 months he was still young – now he doesn’t like the space with the seating). We go out to the same places we would and do those same things we would. We treat life as life regardless of a diagnosis. I want to show everyone, everyone who may think that life changes after.
You will see life as we take it. You will see posts and rants. But I hope you will take away that life is for the living and a diagnosis doesn’t stop you from enjoying and just doing.
And to just put aside those people who say or think ‘sorry to hear that’ when they hear about a diagnose of ASD. We have a great life regardless. But keep checking and you will see and maybe enjoy with us.